- When is it safe to have sex following surgery? More info
Allow time to recover your strength and for you both to feel confident and comfortable. Promote intimacy by touching, holding and kissing. Remember - intimacy need not involve sexual intercourse. Find the most comfortable position and experiment with different positions.
- How can I disguise my bag when I’m with my partner?More info
- Experiment with smaller, more discreet pouches, if appropriate. Experiment with sexy underwear and with scarves/cummerbunds to support the bag. Be adventurous and innovative. Sexy/satin bag covers are available. Maintain your sense of humour. Don’t forget the obvious - and empty or change the bag before sexual activity.
- Will the appliance be obvious under my clothes?More info
- No. There is usually no need to make major adjustments to clothing. Empty/change bags regularly - and always before going out or going to bed. Most closed and drainable appliances have an integral filter to avoid ballooning. If there is a fear of smells and odours, it can be helped by the use of ostomy deodorants.
- When should I tell a prospective partner about my surgery and stoma?More info
- When the time feels right, and before you initiate intimacy. Get to know the person first - and don’t rush. Don’t blame a rejection on the fact that you have a stoma. Rejection happens to everyone and is always painful.
- Can I get pregnant with a stoma?More info
- Yes, you can. It may be necessary to alter the template of your bag as pregnancy progresses.
- Will surgery affect my sexual function?More info
- Everyone is different. Some men may find it difficult to get or maintain an
erection. Women may experience discomfort during sex. Finding new positions can help.
- Sex and relationships booklet More info
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After your surgery, you may fear rejection from your partner, loved ones or friends and have fears about your abilities to perform sexually. These are entirely normal feelings. Remember – you are the same person you were prior to the surgery and, physically, you may even be stronger. It may not be possible to continue in the same way as before your operation. So it’s important that you discuss any concerns with your specialist stoma nurse. Here are a few questions you may want to ask.